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The Elusive Female Orgasm: 5 Tips To Getting The O You DESERVE
Helping Women Learn How to Have an Orgasm | Psychology Today
What you're asking about is most typically called female ejaculation even though not everyone with a vulva identifies as female, nor does everyone who identifies as female have a vulva , and often colloquially called "squirting. Before I say anything else, I want to say these four things first: 1 That does not generally happen just "because someone orgasms so much. Something our bodies do a partner thinks is awesome can be something we do not, or do not yet, feel comfortable with. I get the impression that some guys, particularly younger guys, do see female ejaculation as a cool trick: as a sexual novelty. Obviously, we're all likely to experience some level of novelty with sex and partners, and that's okay -- and it's certainly okay to think things bodies can do are cool! Or when we or others are asking things of anyone's body which that particular body may or may not do. Our sexuality should be a reflection of who we are , and what our bodies, uniquely, do, not who or what someone else wants.
Women share their honest advice on how to have a better orgasm
Sex can and should be an enjoyable experience starting at foreplay and creating an intimate connection with the other person. Learning to enjoy the entire intercourse process and not just the finished product will make us more satisfied in our sexual relationships and overall in life. Understanding that sex is a two-way street is important when talking about sexual satisfaction with your partner. When there are two people involved in the equation, one person cannot be more important than the other. We have to learn to be a little bit selfless and ask how the other person is doing, how they are feeling and what they want.
Inside the bottom of your body lies a hammock of muscles that surround your genitalia and associated organs. The pelvic floor muscles also act as a trampoline for sexual energy. The muscles ricochet and reverberate it all around your body, spreading your arousal and magnifying its intensity. Again, there is no one right way to play with your pelvic floor muscles, so experiment with lots of different actions. Squeeze, pull up, cinch together, flutter, vibrate, push, hold and release them as you see fit.