When I was little, my father would drag my sister and me out in the cold morning in camouflage outfits and orange hats to sit with him in a deer stand and practice shooting his gun. This was a necessity for a young boy in the South. While his tutelage never stuck, he might be surprised to learn that I still grew up to be a hunter. All I need is a drawstring shoulder bag carrying my keys, wallet, cell phone, and a douching bulb for emergency visits to the nearest bathroom. Depending on the environment — a dive bar versus a dance club, a bathhouse or a play party — I might be wearing more clothes or less, but the target is the same: men and anal sex. As gay men, a good portion of some of our lives will be dedicated to the art and craft of anal sex.
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You tried. It hurt. You stopped. Nothing but an unbearable burning sensation mixed with a terrible pressure.
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I think part of my fascination with the topic was directly linked to my strong need to please the guys I had sex with. Sure, you could look at videos to see how other people got pounded but deep inside, you always knew they were acting. Who would have thought gay acceptance carried such perks? Can I tell you a secret? When I first started receiving anal, I thought all you had to do was take a dump and wham — you were ready to get plowed.
Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to look after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give it a try but not sure how to begin? This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to stop damage to the internal lining of your arse.